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Sunday, January 30, 2011

My Battles With Loneliness

After posting the picture of my Good Morning Girls Group, I received a few comments and emails from sisters in Christ who are lonely and long for Christian friendships. My heart broke, as I can recall the seasons in life where I was caught in the dark cloud of loneliness.


I remember weekends in college in Chicago, when most of the girls either went home or out on dates with their boyfriends - I was homesick. I would sit in my dorm room alone eating popcorn and listening to George Winston’s Pachabel’s Canon play on repeat for hours(I still do this! lol!). I never did go out on dates in college - not once – I was dating Keith long distance. I poured over God's word on those long weekends and filled in the gaping dark hole with God's presence.


Finally, I married Keith after 4 long years apart and we moved to Columbus, Ohio for him to finish college at Ohio State University. I was in a new town – with a new name - with a new job – and a new church. I recall walking into my first Bible study in the new church and no one greeting me. I sat alone and was very uncomfortable. I had made some non-Christian friends at work. But I longed for a safe refuge of Christian friends where I could let my guard down and be myself. It took about 18 months before I developed my first "real" Christian friendship...it was a long lonely 18 months.


Then I moved home after 7 years away. I had finally made Christian friends back in Columbus – but here I was “alone” again! I pulled out a prayer journal from my first week home and I had written in there… “Help me Lord to not get into a rut of self pity as it is hard in a new town with no friends.” Looking back it’s humorous. I wasn’t in a new town? I was in my hometown. These weren’t new friends? They were old friends. But I was scared - I had changed in 7 years - so had they - would they accept me?


David, “a man after God’s own heart”, was lonely. In Psalm 25:16 he said to the Lord, “Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted.” David turned to God.


If we choose to turn away from God in response to our loneliness we will go down a very cold road
. Job and Elijah felt so alone they wanted to die. Jeremiah wished he had never even been born. Satan can use this time to enter sinful thoughts into our minds such as self pity, self-centeredness, bitterness, anger, and jealousy. We may attempt to put a band aid on the pain by turning to the television, alcohol, shopping, binge eating, or excessive computer time.


But, the only comfort I ever found was in releasing my needs to God in prayer and then trusting God. If you are struggling with loneliness today I encourage you to read Psalm 84:11,12. Place your trust in God, then go one step further and delight yourself in God as the rest of Psalm 84 says.


Stop being jealous, stop shopping, stop suppressing the pain with food. I testify as one lonely sister to another (*tears are stinging as I write this next line because God has taught me this truth through tears over and over and over and I pray with all my heart you will grasp this) - it has been in my trusting and delighting - that God has filled the God shaped hole inside of me, to the brim.


In time, God will bring you the fellowship you long for but never let your friends replace your Walk with the King,
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51 Comments:

Blogger laurensmommy said...

Courtney,
I can't tell you how much I needed this post. My husband was transferred out of state for a job last year and we had to pick up and move (again) to a place where I knew no one.

I have felt those same feelings that you talked about. I have tried to fill the loneliness with shopping, food, excessive computer time... :) Doesn't work!''

A year later, I am starting to feel like I have met some good Christian friends.

Could this be a challenge for all of us to reach out to new faces in our churches and Bible studies?!
Humans (and I think women especially) NEED fellowship and friendship in the body of Christ!

January 30, 2011 at 10:36 PM  
Blogger cindy said...

Oh this post is such perfect timing for me also and a great reminder that ONLY GOD can fill that God shaped hole within my heart. I have felt very lonely in the past few months for starters my husband and I left our church of 6 years to go to another church for a season where we felt like outsiders and then we went back and forth for last couple months back and forth between churches which in and of it self is HARD. We now after a season of 6 LONG months have returned home to our church of 6 years and alot changes in 6 months church grown ALOT we have grown and changed as well as our old friends and I feel the same as you did "WILL THEY ACCEPT ME AGAIN" BOTTOM LINE God accepts me and that has to be my focus. Thank you for this reminder not to allow Satan to come in and lie to us we are NEVER ALONE and in those seasons we must cling to God for guidence and direction sometimes He calls us to those times of being with just HIM ALONE. I know God has us right where He wants us right now and that is what gets me thru. Thank you for this post and for being transparent with us in blog land it is a blessing to know we are not alone!!

May we all keep walking with the King,
Cindy

January 30, 2011 at 10:52 PM  
Blogger Terri said...

Wonderful post. I will remember to welcome people more and to remember to let the ones I already know that I am always ready to be a friend. Thanks for the reminder.

January 30, 2011 at 10:56 PM  
Blogger No Ordinary Me said...

What a encouraging post. I can't agree more. I went through a period two years ago when my closest "Christian" friend started to get farther and farther away from the Lord. We are still friends but that "Kindred" spirit friend connection is not the same. She left church, and realyl doesn't talk about God the way we use to. We use pray and cry in the altars together. We read devotions and prayed together. It was a hard time. But God did fill me. He also taught me to depend upon Him.

Thanks for sharing.

January 30, 2011 at 10:58 PM  
Blogger Sonya Schroeder said...

Wow Courtney what a great post. Myself having a military husband and going through moves and deployments I have been in this LONELY stage and had the pity party. Some days you just dont know how your going to get through and then you realize that you are not walking with God that you have let the devil in a little hole you created. I filled my loneliness with work, eating, lots of time on the computer, anything that made me feel better. God is the ONLY one that can fill all our loneliness. He is true, constant and ever lasting in His walk with us. Once we can realize when the Devil is trying to take us away we can fight harder to delight ourselves in Him... Thank you for your words tonight!!! Hugs xoxo

January 30, 2011 at 11:07 PM  
Blogger Jessica Heights said...

Courtney, this is RIGHT where I am, in a new town 1500 miles away from home, with my husband working six days a week with our only car...

...I have been horribly lonely in these last few weeks. I've been leaning hard on God's gentle shoulder, but it's always nice to hear that I'm not alone in feeling like this! Thank you! :)

January 30, 2011 at 11:19 PM  
Blogger Jacki said...

I have been battling this for almost 3 years! I am from a different country plus I don't drive yet. I feel left out a lot. I try so hard to belong and it is very exhausting. Thank you for sharing this Courtney.

January 30, 2011 at 11:34 PM  
Blogger Crystal said...

Thank you!! This is one of my biggest struggles. I haven't had close girlfriends in over 8 years.. actually when I became a Christian. We've been at our new church for 2 years now and I still feel like an outsider most of the time. It's a very close knit church! We do love it so much though! I do often find myself in the midst of a pity party but I have to remind myself what's important: my walk with Christ, my husband and my kids. And if He chooses to keep me friendless, then I'm really okay with that.

January 30, 2011 at 11:37 PM  
Blogger Jessica said...

OH I needed this! We are military and just moved halfway around the world, literally and my husband deployed after only 4 weeks of living here. Six months later, I find myself church hopping trying to find what feels right. I think Im looking for friends more than seeking the Lord. Thanks for being faithful to share Truth...

January 30, 2011 at 11:50 PM  
Blogger Darlene Schacht said...

Remember this is how I was feeling earlier in the week? I am praising God because I know He's at work. This Saturday coming up I have a homeschooling family coming over. This lady smiles 24/7 and wrestles with her kids. She's down to earth, grounded in faith, and fun--just what I need. And then my other friend who's the wife of an amazing pastor was emailing me tonight. She gave me her cell number to text, so I feel like we're going steady now. LOL!! You know the feeling, huh? It's just nice when you see God at work.

I think that the loneliness is painful, but there is a season for everything and God is there to see us through.

Even if it feels like the world has forgotten us, God hasn't. He's at work.

January 31, 2011 at 12:04 AM  
Blogger Kristi Lea said...

I've been there too, Courtney. When I was born again at the age of 17, I found out in the next year, that my friends weren't really my friends. They were in it, as long as they got something out of it, and didn't truly care about me. I left all my friends, and my old lifestyle. I realized no friends at all, was much better than bad ones.

I had to wait two years for a good Christian friend. She was a blessing, but much older than I. Another 3 years, and the Lord blessed me with one more. 3 more years, and I had my first two close friends that were my age. I felt truly blessed.

But you know, what I have found through all this, is that they still will let me down, dissapoint me, and me them, I'm sure. God is the only one who can ever truly be there for me fully, and never let me down. He can fill my cup and my needs to the point of overflowing! And my husband. No matter what happens in life, he is right there with me, even when friends aren't.

My biggest success with friendships has actually been online. We can chat, pray for one another, share the word of God together, and do it all on our own time, as to not interfere with our families. The best part...no matter where God moves us, we are still just an Internet connection away! :)

January 31, 2011 at 12:10 AM  
Blogger Happily Ever After Again said...

this was beautiful. :)

January 31, 2011 at 12:46 AM  
Blogger Homeschool on the Croft said...

Been there....done that....! And still do - often - despite the fact that I'm surrounded by family and friends.
God teaches us that He is *the* place of refuge, and sometimes we take a l-o-n-g time to learn this.
Praise Him for His infinite patience towards us x

January 31, 2011 at 6:05 AM  
Blogger A Humble Planter said...

Miss COurtney, I wish I could just reach through this computer and hug you right now. Thank you so much for such a beautiful post. As an Army wife, who constantly moves (we are on our third move in three years with TWO scheduled next year) it is so exhausting to constantly be putting ourselves out there, trying to make connections every time we go to a new duty station. It can be scary.

Thank you for the reminder that God is always our first and best connection.

January 31, 2011 at 6:30 AM  
Blogger Crystal said...

Oh my word Courtney. My daughter just called me last night from college telling me she has no friends right now. It is exactly what you went through. I have a text on my phone for her saved in drafts because it is way to early to text a college girl but it was laid upon my heart when I was praying for her that God is wanting to be her best friend. He is wanting her to get to know him more deeply and he will send the friends later. I am going to send her your blog to read. Thank you so much for this post. Maybe I can stop crying now.

January 31, 2011 at 6:37 AM  
Blogger Lisa Maria said...

Dear Courtney.. your post today has really touched my heart. I have also felt those feelings myself. When I chose to become a stay at home mom 18 years ago I found myself in a very lonely place, not too many people supported my choice.. my in-laws, my own father thought I was making a mistake.

I had no friends to turn to really and I found myself turning to God. Even more recently when I went through a serious trial in my marriage it was God who was there for me, because I refused to burden my family with what I was going through. I didn't want them judging my husband's actions or trying to give 'bad' advice. I can truly say that I know what its like to be comforted by the presence of God. I praise God for this opportunity to connect with other God-fearing women who live out the values that Christ wants us to live out. I'm not a part of a GMG group, but I'm so enjoying reading and sharing what others have to say.

It IS lonely when you try to live the gospel.. you're out on a limb. Thank God for yourself and Angela and people like Darlene and all the wonderful women out there who are making a difference.

January 31, 2011 at 6:52 AM  
Blogger Jaimebrooke1 said...

Thank you for posting this! I really needed to hear it. We moved last Spring, away from everyone that we knew. Making friends all over again can be a long process. I have been learning to be content with where God has me, and to be thankful that I can use this opportunity to grow even closer to God in my walk with Him. Thank you for your blog! It has been a true blessing!!!

January 31, 2011 at 7:07 AM  
Blogger Kalee said...

This was exactly what I needed to read! We've been on the east coast for nearly a year and half and I always figured that I'd have a good group of girlfriends by now, but it's a slowly but surely sort of thing. It takes time, and I'm learning patience.

January 31, 2011 at 8:00 AM  
Blogger LouAnne said...

Thank you for this.. I so needed to read it this morning. The loneliness is just so heavy at times that I let it affect my fellowship with my Savior. Thank you for calling our eyes back to Him.

January 31, 2011 at 8:25 AM  
Blogger timi said...

Your post was honest and spoke the words I longed to speak. We moved from Texas to Wisconsin 14 years ago for my husband's career. At the time my son was 6 and my daughter was 6 weeks old. It has been a long and lonely 14 years. People are different here than what I was used to with different cultural values and long winter hibernations.

This walk is still difficult and it is still something I struggle with. I have tried to fill that hole with shopping, eating, exercising, cleaning and being 'busy' but they never give me the fulfillment I crave.

Thank you for posting this and sharing your story with us. It's nice to know we're not alone. I thank God I found your blog.

January 31, 2011 at 8:28 AM  
Blogger Sherry @ Lamp Unto My Feet said...

I so needed this. i've even gotten to the point of depression, because of the loneliness. we are a military family and after moving here, 2 car accidents, and best friend moving away. I had no one but my immediate family and God. We have no ladies Bible studies at church, so it has been even more painful for me as i feel I am so disconnected. we will be moving in 2 months to another state, and I'm hoping that God will lead us to some place that I can make more Christian connections and friends.

January 31, 2011 at 8:41 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Courtney, I'll join in the chorus and say that I needed this as well.

I'm concerned because my GMG group has not been emailing or contacting every day. I feel kind of alone in my GMG. Not that I'll give up, mind you, but how should we proceed when our GMGs have dropped out?

Thanks again.

January 31, 2011 at 8:48 AM  
Blogger Katja said...

Courtney - I know exactly what you are talking about! I have been moving so often and always had to make new friends. The hardest move was the first one with children and without an out-of-the-house-job... however, when I strated to consider it a duty that I have to fullfill for my family it became much easier. Now after living in one spot for almost five years I have such a big circle of friends. For all the moms out there - it always takes half a year to settle down, but then it'll become much easier!!!

January 31, 2011 at 9:05 AM  
Blogger Sarah said...

This comes at a difficult time. Having moved to a new state and being newly married to my awesome husband who serves diligently every Sunday. I've found myself often alone in a huge sea of a congregation that I don't know. It's been 6 months and every Sunday feels unpredictable. I often come home overwhelmed and emotionally drained. God has been good in providing an amazing small group and ABF class. But Sunday morning worship is still a bear even after trying many different things.
Thank you for sharing that we're in this together.

January 31, 2011 at 9:45 AM  
Blogger Priscilla said...

Courtney,this is a much needed post!
I asked God why I was in these "dark cloud of loneliness" and why , despite all the things I have (material), I was still feeling depressed. These was a light in my life today!! Thank you!
(((hugs)))

January 31, 2011 at 10:03 AM  
Blogger Sandi said...

Courtney:
Thank you for sharing. After my son was born, I went back to work part-time for about 5 months. When I finally decided to stay home, I found myself in a new world with not many people around me. I joined a local MOMS Club for support, but I really felt the hole in my church my fellowship group had really fallen apart and I was the only one with a baby and not working. I went through a spiritually dark time because I felt so alone. However, from this period, the Lord led me to start an in-home Bible study through the MOMS Club. It started with 3 of us who grew incredibly close and supportive of one another. We are now at 10, and I consider myself so blessed to have these women holding me accountable, praying for me and walking through life with me. I had to take the initiative to invite women I didn't know into my home, and I'm so grateful that God blessed me with incredible people who are my dearest friends. God is soooo good!!!

January 31, 2011 at 10:18 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Courtney,

I just want to praise God for how He is using you for His Kingdom. Your posts have touched me and so many others--you are a rare gem. You make God-honoring sacrifices to help others and I can imagine at times it is difficult.

I have struggled with lonliness too. I started having panic attacks in my mid twenties. Later on I realized (with the help of a counselor) that I was dealing with a social phobia and generalized anxiety disorder. When I became a Christian I thought these things would disappear--but they did not.

Many years later, I can honestly say that this lonliness has brought such depth of beauty to my life. God brings us to those lonley places to increase His glory. It's made me want to reach out to others who are lonely. I feel like God is making it all beautiful in His time, delivering me daily and walking with me through each moment.

I feel for everyone going through this pain of lonliness, but know that it will bring each and every one of you closer to Him who knows the plans He has for you--to give you a hope and a future!

When we delight ourselves in Him and look up and then around to others in need, that is when the healing starts. When I looked at what others had or how "together" they seemed, that is when I would fall flat. I needed to learn to "enjoy" the moment for its beauty and the fact that God was with me--even when it felt like he wasn't. He is there, even in the lonliness of being a stay-at-home mom with little or no support. Wherever you are-He is there and He loves you!!

January 31, 2011 at 10:56 AM  
Blogger Emily Gibson said...

Thank you for this today! I am a military spouse who moves every 2-3years and have felt alone many times. I just keep praying that the Lord lead me to the right place and surround me with a sister or sisters in Christ in each new place. Being there for someone else always helps with the loneliness. Getting passed my circumstances and focusing on someone else certainly heals and forms bonds with other women! God knows what we need and certainly fills that void! God Bless you Courtney!

January 31, 2011 at 10:57 AM  
Blogger Kim said...

What a timely post. We are in the midst of my husbands job being transferred to another state. I am having a really hard time with this. I feel like I am wrestling with God. Back and forth... the thought of my entire life being uprooted and being lonely kills me. I know my Jesus has a plan and that it will ultimately work out for good, but oh the pain of leaving my family and friends.
Courtney, you have a gift. Your blog is definitely a ministry. Many blessings to you....

January 31, 2011 at 11:50 AM  
Blogger Saved by Grace said...

Oh sister, I can totally relate to that loneliness. And have gone down that path, it's not a pleasing one. But Praise God through all of it, I came to a place where He is the only one who filled it perfectly. I tried to fill it with my hubby, children, friends..etc.. And they all failed me. But God showed me that He was the only one who could fill it. This is an awesome post, and I know it will minister to many. I consider being lonely a blessing. It has shown me to drawer closer to Him. Anytime that I do feel that loneliness trying to creep in, I run to Him and He in turn shows me He is always there. To never leave me nor forsake me.
God Bless you sis!
Adrienne

January 31, 2011 at 11:59 AM  
Blogger Mandy Alexander said...

It is great to know that we are not alone in the lonliness battle. We just moved to a new city in August and I had a 5 month old and also went from being a working mom to a stay at home mom. We have struggled finding a church home and I haven't seemed to meet any other moms. I have always been so dependent on having friends, family, and a church family. I love people and want to be around them often. Especially as a new mom, I need other moms. I have moved around in the past and never seemed to struggle meeting people, however, with a baby, it's harder. I have felt like Job at times, stripped of everything that I love- all the while depending on the Lord to be my source of joy and fulfillment. The thing that God has taught me most during this is that He is all we need and that He can use me even in my weakest state.
Blessings!

January 31, 2011 at 12:13 PM  
Blogger Audrey said...

Thank you so much for this post. My hubby and I moved away from our friends and family last November just 3 weeks after having our second child, and for the past year and 3 months, we have not even found a home church. There are two couples we are friends with, but I do long for that Christian group of girls I can laugh with and talk to and relate to, and I have not yet found that. It makes me miss home so much! And on top of all that, being a stay-at-home mom, and being a one-car household, I literally don't talk to anyone except my neighbors, and the cashier at the grocery store when I go every two weeks!

Thank you so much for this post, it is so very timely.

January 31, 2011 at 3:23 PM  
Blogger Kalyn said...

Thank you for this post, Courtney!

January 31, 2011 at 3:29 PM  
Blogger SANDRA said...

Beautiful post. I needed to hear this today. Thank you.

January 31, 2011 at 5:11 PM  
Blogger Leigha said...

I am really enjoying your post on loneliness! I have suffered through losing parents (inlaws), our 6 1/2 year old son, our new home (fire), all within the past 6 years and I'm only 28 years old. I have a hard time relating to people bc no one has been through hard times like we have. I feel lonely a lot! I kept longing for someone to fill that void but, I am beginning to see that I need God more now than ever and am doing a lot of soul searching :) Thank you for helping me!!

January 31, 2011 at 6:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Courtney, this is JUST what I needed to hear... I am having no luck at making friends at our HUGE church. I am even teaching Sunday School and just not making connections. Our church offers a women's yoga class on Sunday evening while the kids are in choir, so I went last night. I walked over to a spot by a woman around my age and smiled and went to roll my mat out and she said... this spot is taken, can you move somewhere else? My heart just broke! I felt like I was in high school! Ugh... I went home and told my husband and he suggested I try to sign up for just a women's Bible study, so I signed up for a mom's group on Tuesday nights... we will see how that goes.

But, my main point is all day I have allowed self pity to enter my mind and even said to the Lord that I am so tired of trying to make friends and be a good example at work and that I just wanted to give up!! lol

So, you can imagine your words are just what I needed tonight :)

Melodie

January 31, 2011 at 6:39 PM  
Blogger Briana said...

Thank you SO SO SO SO much for this post! I saw it on a blogroll and I am glad God led me to read it! Wonderful points and thank you so much for your understanding toward those of us who are still struggling with loneliness!

January 31, 2011 at 7:36 PM  
Blogger Heidi said...

What a beautiful post! Thank you for writing this. I have needed to hear this many times.

January 31, 2011 at 9:25 PM  
Anonymous shannon said...

I think some of the most beautiful things I read are things that are honest about ourselves. I respect that you shared your lonliness with us, as sometimes we tend to create stories in our heads of all the fun everyone else is having. When I'm homeschooling, cleaning(again), cooking dinner, I sometimes can create ideas that I am the only woman who feels lonely out there. I know this is not true, but sometimes it gets the best of me and I appreciate your honesty :)

February 1, 2011 at 7:54 AM  
Anonymous Redeemed2904 said...

Great post.My husband and i moved area to start a church and i must say i miss my friends who are either in my mother church or Pastors wives themselves also.God has taught me to find my sufficiency in him and only HIM!

Friendship is something i have struggled with and God has been faithful to reveal to me who i can trust and are my real friends.I agree with you about trusting God in this as its better to have friends God has sent.The key is to be patient and work on being a good friend so that when they come along everyone will be blessed.

February 1, 2011 at 8:50 AM  
Blogger teachermomof2 said...

Thank you for a great post Courtney! I struggle with loneliness too.

February 1, 2011 at 9:07 AM  
Blogger teachermomof2 said...

Thank you for a great post Courtney! I struggle with loneliness too.

February 1, 2011 at 9:07 AM  
Blogger Kendra said...

I recently joined your blog and I loving everything about. I needed this blog. Thank you so much!

February 1, 2011 at 1:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am an extremely social person and have lots of friends and I still have periods of feeling very lonely...everytime I feel like this and I cry out to God He hears me and almost always sends someone to encourage me and remind me that He is there all the time and He will not let me down and also that there are truly others who care even when I feel like they dont. I have found I can be surrounded by people and still feel lonely b/c I need Jesus to fill that need and no other human can do that!

February 1, 2011 at 11:59 PM  
Blogger Stacey said...

I am a missionary in Austria, moments of loneliness do come but I have found that trusting in the Lord to be my friend, crying out for help in my time of need always helps.

Thank you for your timely post.

February 3, 2011 at 6:54 AM  
Anonymous Anna said...

Hi Courtney
Just what I needed to hear/read! You are right to say that we musn't fill the loneliness with worldly things. My husband is not a Christian and that makes me often feel so lonely eventhough he is next to me!

We need to look to Jesus all the time.

Thanks again, Courtney! May the Lord bless you and your family richly.

February 3, 2011 at 11:52 AM  
Blogger sweet european dreams said...

So very timely. Prior to my husband being in the military, I remember having to schedule alone-time as I was so incredibly blessed with Christian friends. When we decided to join the military life, I was excited to be jumping into such an enormous mission field. Well, 4 years into it and I'm just not so excited anymore. We rarely ever meet other belivers and because of his crazy schedule, we have not been able to really connect with the church at our new duty station. I've never felt lonely before until now and it is soooo very yucky! You're right - the only solution is for me to spend time with my True Best Friend - only He can fill the void that I'm feeling. Thanks so much for being such a blessing to so many! -diane

February 3, 2011 at 11:24 PM  
Blogger Courtney (Women Living Well) said...

Anonymous Good Morning Girl - I am SO sorry that your group has grown inconsistent and it's only just begun - ugh!

Please tell them in an email that you are missing them and wish you could hear from them as you need the accountability.

If no one is emailing - then send an email and ask them if they'd like to quit or go forward and try again. If everyone is out - you could try to join a group that is already going off the message board over at Goodmorninggirls.org

I'm so sorry this happened. I am sure it is very discouraging! Hang in there girl - give grace to the girls in your group and keep seeking to walk with the King!
Courtney

February 4, 2011 at 4:02 PM  
Anonymous Steph @ MomKaboodle said...

Wow, thank you so much for sharing your heart with us here! I know I've certainly felt this way before.
It hurts my heart to hear that nobody welcomed you at that Bible Study...I wonder if they were feeling shy and insecure?
I've noticed times when I was feeling particularly down - either lonely or overwhelmed. I would try calling a friend, a family member...it would just "happen" that nobody was available at that moment. Then I would feel the Lord's gentle nudging - that I needed to seek my comfort from Him. It was almost as if He moved those people out of reach so I could realize that and rely on Him instead.
I found you through the HHH. I love your site and what you're doing here - it's inspiring!

February 8, 2011 at 8:47 AM  
Blogger Annika said...

Thank you for your words of wisdom. It seems strange how a mom of 4, who homeschools, and is involved in many church activities, can feel lonely, but I do. I long for the closeness of a true girlfriend, one who I can bear my heart to. But ultimately I know God is always there for me, and really He is all I need. I am sure it is more me than any one of my friends. Maybe I am scared...

February 8, 2011 at 9:24 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for this post,your post described exactly what I'm going through and how I feel. I'm so lonely that it hurts to breathe, I long for Christian friends but being in a new time I haven't found any yet. I know that I need to lean on God during this time but I'm just finding it so hard to get out of this dark cloud. I'm off to read the verses that you suggested! Thanks again for this post!

March 2, 2011 at 12:09 PM  

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