Is Marital Bliss Possible?

Hmmmm... Is marital bliss possible? I am currently reading a really enlightening book on marriage and it has opened my eyes to how cranky women (more specifically "I") can be! Yes, it's easy for us to try to take the role of teacher and judge to our husbands - thinking that we see their faults and we are here to point them out - but does taking that role ever bring a woman marital bliss? Nope!

We know that when our husbands fell in love with us it was not because we were wonderful teachers and judges - no they married us because they loved the sparkle in our eye when we smiled at them, they loved how we made them feel, they loved how we respected their thoughts and wanted to hear and understand them. They loved how we embraced their dreams of the future and were so trusting and loyal and how we overlooked their short comings. Then they married us - and well - Proverbs 19:13 says "a quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping."

Do you catch yourself maybe not criticizing your husband out loud but thinking critical thoughts in your heart - maybe he comes home late from work one night and your annoyed that dinner is cold. Then he does it again. Then he does it again and suddenly you boil over with anger and an abundance of bitterness comes out. Luke 6:45 says "The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks."

What if in the dinner situation we thought how blessed we are to have such a hard working husband who brings a pay check home so we can have a warm home, food on the table and a bright future for the children? There are women who are all alone at dinner time with no husband to be expected. They are living pay check to pay check and worried about their children's future. If we thought this way - when our husband walked through the door he'd be greeted with a warm hug rather than the cold shoulder.

Who you are behind closed doors when no one sees, is who you really are. Does your husband come home to a quarrelsome wife or a wife who has a sparkle in her smile when she looks at him? Does your husband feel judged by you or does he love the way you make him feel? Now you may say - but Courtney - you don't know the awful things my husband does! I don't - you are correct - but I do know that God's word says to not be quarrelsome and to store up good things in our hearts - no exceptions are given.

When we resolve our own heart issues and choose to have joy (see past 2 blogs) I believe every woman can have marital bliss. Because bliss (or joy) does not come from our husbands but from God. And when we are obeying God's word and doing his will we will find peace, rest and joy.

Walk with the King!

Courtney

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