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Tuesday, June 22, 2010


Today Sarah Mae is guest posting! Sarah Mae raises babes, loves her man, home-keeps, java-hugs, homeschool teaches, and blog writes. She is a truth seeker and a grace lover. You can find her offering up her thoughts at her personal blog, Like a Warm Cup of Coffee and at the DaySpring website, (in)courage. She is the gal behind Raising Homemakers. Also this: the Relevant Conference. She is currently the proud mommy of two lovely daughters and one busy little boy.

Sarah Mae writes:
The tagline of the Completing Him series says, “Becoming the woman your man needs.”

I think it’s catchy and cute and fits perfectly with the challenge.
a reader mentioned her disappointment with the word ‘becoming’ saying, “I don’t have to become what my husband needs, I already am, that’s why he married me.”

Valid point, wouldn’t you say? Sure made me think twice about the tagline. And the word “becoming.”

So I’m thinking about her comment and about ‘becoming’ and I’m thinking how we are all becoming something, because none of us are complete. In fact, we will not be complete until that glorious day when we join the saints in heaven. So for now, we are being sanctified…we are becoming.

And yes, we are even becoming the women our husbands need, because even though our husbands chose to marry us because of who we are, a relationship grows and stretches and becomes itself. We learn more about our husbands through the weeks, months, and years, and we learn how to better compliment them with each passing season. We learn how to be what our husband needs as we walk alongside him, study him, seek after his heart, and observe the details of who he is.

As we learn, and as we pay attention, we will become what he needs; we will know him better than anyone else on this earth.
We are always becoming, always growing, always learning, always conforming more to the image of Jesus Christ, in our lives and in our marriages.
Isn’t it beautiful that our God doesn’t keep us stagnant?

So friends, go forth, and become!

Thank you Sarah Mae for an inspirational word!
Walk with the King!



Anonymous Jen at SoulFULL Cafe said...

I once had a poster in my bedroom of a beautiful butterfly coming out of a cocoon. The quote below it said: "Change is the essence of life. Be willing to change who you are, for who you could become."

I am so thankful to God for how he is continually at work within me, so that I can fly like a beautiful butterfly. And I know my husband is thankful too! We are both thankful that God doesn't leave us as larva stuck in a cocoon.

June 22, 2010 at 9:12 AM  
Blogger Rona's Home Page said...

I love what you shared about marriage. It's so important for women to remember these things.

June 22, 2010 at 9:17 AM  
Blogger Stam House said...

Becoming, I love that word and think that it was the perfect one!

Non of us is perfect, and we are all growing and changing. That is what becoming is, growing and changing to become what God wanted us to be!

Thanks for sharing these inspiring words!

June 22, 2010 at 10:14 AM  
Blogger Tammy said...

Very well said.

If we as women and well as humans for that matter,do not grow,change,and mature are we really living. To assume that your finished,done learning and growing and changing and becoming because you are married is limiting what you can become as a wife,mother and a woman of God.

June 22, 2010 at 10:21 AM  
Blogger Kalee said...

I LOVE this post. When I've told others I was working on being the wife my husband needs (and he working to be the husband I need, bless him), I've gotten the same responses."Why do you have to change, he loves you already!" Yes, he does, but I want to fulfill his needs. As you get older he will change, life changes, and you have to change to meet the needs of your husband. It's not a difficult concept. When a husband takes on a job that means he needs a uniform done a certain way, and he really doesn't have the time, as his helper you wash and hang them up. In an emotional sense, perhaps his job has a stressful thing going on and he needs instead of chat time when he gets home, a half hour or so to de-stress. So I will get him a drink, leave him to a book and busy myself elsewhere. It's an ebb and flow, a beautiful dance really, as you weave the needs of each other into what is called a marriage.

June 22, 2010 at 10:22 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

All I have to say is AMEN!

June 22, 2010 at 10:27 AM  
Blogger Amy Bennett said...

we are definitely becoming! If I knew and acted towards my husband in the same way as I did 12 years ago we'd be in trouble! Not that I was bad or wrong but that was us then and we are who we are now and yes, we are different and I believe have BECOME better for each other!

June 22, 2010 at 11:16 AM  
Anonymous Tiffany said...

Yes Yes Yes! I so agree! Our husbands married us because they loved us and believed that God provided us as a helper suitable for them! My husband was in ministry when I met him...and it was so important to him to meet and marry a woman who would love him during the good and rough seasons of ministry, life and participate in this exciting adventure (because y'all ministry is never boring. Rough sometimes yes...but NEVER boring!)

Excellent post Sarah Mae.

June 22, 2010 at 11:28 AM  
Anonymous Sara Dick said...

We will celebrate our 17th anniversary at the end of this summer and we are both "becoming" who the other needs. Sanctification is a LIFELONG process. I know that on this earth I will always fail him in some way and he me. But we hold on to the prize, and press on.
This post made me think about one of my new favorite Sara Groves songs. "Different kinds of Happy" here's a segment
"better than our promises
is the day we got to keep them
I wish those two could see us now
they never would believe how
there are different kinds of happy"

June 22, 2010 at 12:04 PM  
Blogger mjellis said...

I hope I never, ever stop becoming a better wife for my husband :) I am beyond a work in progress and hope to always be bettering myself for me. I love this challenge!

June 22, 2010 at 12:34 PM  
Blogger Rose said...

Thank you for this encouraging post! God bless you, rose

June 22, 2010 at 5:04 PM  
Blogger Mommy Of Two Little Blessings said...

I too think this was well thought out and that God blessed your fingers as you shared what He impressed upon your heart on this topic of merriage and change. Thank you for sharing and I pray we all grow in God as we continue this "challange" that's the funny word to me. *smile* It's not a challange to show God's love to my bleoved. For some gals it is, but here is where once again, I am richly blessed by God! *big smile* Sincerely, Mommy of two little blessings & so much more!

June 22, 2010 at 11:10 PM  
Blogger Teri Lynne Underwood said...

I believe it was Kierkegaard who wrote that the great pursuit of life is in the becoming ... for there truly is only one Being.

And thus I train my mind to focus on the becoming ... the wrestling out of my flesh even with the limp that remains to remind me, ever and always, that the goal is noble and the prize is He.

June 23, 2010 at 4:57 PM  
Blogger Kristine said...

I think you make an excellent point. We are always "becoming", "changing", "growing"...these are words to be embraced. Great post :)

June 24, 2010 at 8:46 AM  
Blogger kewkew said...

Thank you for such a well thought out post concerning "becoming." When I was looking at what nay sayers were commenting about this was a big one, as you said "I don't have to become what my husband needs, I already am, that's why he married me." I love the way you explained this.

June 24, 2010 at 11:45 PM  
Blogger Nishant said...

I love what you shared about marriage. It's so important for women to remember these things.
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June 26, 2010 at 2:30 PM  
Anonymous Lisa Grace said...

Thanks for sharing; this is perfect. BECOMING... I am so blessed to have a husband who knows my faults and loves me in spite of them, and some times even loves me because of the quirky ones. However, because I love him so much, I am praying about BECOMING a better HELPMEET to him; it's a beautiful journey!

June 30, 2010 at 12:17 PM  

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