Putting Order On Your Tongue

Word Filled Wednesday: Proverbs 31:26 says "She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness."


Over the past 18 weeks as we have studied the Proverbs 31 woman, we have seen her put order into every aspect of her life. We've watched her be a jewel to her husband, children, servants and even the poor. We've watched her rise early, stay up late, plant a vineyard, sew her own clothes, her family's clothing, the tapestries and beddings! And the cherry on top of all of this woman's work is excellence!

As she puts order into her home, we find that she also puts order on her tongue. James 3:2 says "If anyone is never at fault in what he says, he is a perfect man." This is no small task to put order on her tongue. She is not perfect but she is diligent to make every effort to filter her words!

We find two rules of order that she followed:

1. She spoke only wise words.

2. She spoke only kind words.

Where does her wisdom flow from? From her walk with God, from her life experiences, from wise mentors, wise friends and perhaps good solid literature.

Are you walking with God daily? Are you pondering your life experiences long enough to gain wisdom from them? Do you have a wise mentor, mother or grandmother? Do you have wise friends? Are the things you are reading filled with wisdom?

OR are you too busy to read your Bible? Too busy to reflect on your daily happenings to pull wisdom from them? Have you chosen poor friendships? Do you choose to fill your mind with the world's wisdom through television, magazines and websites filled with celebrity gossip?

If you lack wisdom start by digging into God word TODAY in the book of Proverbs. Start in chapter one and get reading. Then pray. James 1:5 says "If any of you lacks wisdom he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him."

Now think of those in your family who are affected most by the words you say. Have you considered that they too are weary pilgrims in a dry desert who need a fountain of life pouring forth wisdom and kindness to survive. You can know a woman's character by her choice of words.

Would your family say you are kind? It doesn't matter how pretty your hair, make-up or clothes are, it's the words coming out of your mouth that determine your true beauty. What can we do to work on kindness?

1. Practice self-control with your emotions. Try to not be overly emotional and speak rapidly when you are angry. All of those rapid words are unkind.
2. Watch sarcasm - it usually reveals a bitter heart.

3. Watch critical remarks - they are red flags revealing a proud heart or envious heart or selfish heart or an angry heart.

Here's your to-do list for the day!

1. Let your husband hear you teaching your children God's wisdom.
2. Be gracious with your words towards others.
3. Be gentle with others.

4. Be quick to notice others strengths and slow to point out others flaws.

5. Purify your heart through the reading of God's word and put aside all anger, bitterness, malice, slander, envy, and self-pity.


Put order on your tongue as you Walk with the King!

I am participating in Seven Clown Circus Wordful Wednesday and 5 Minutes for Mom Wordless Wednesday.