Is The Grass Really Greener In Other Marriages???

Sometimes we are tempted to think that the grass is greener in other marriages. We imagine that someone has something better than what we have and we want it. We can't see the dirt from our side angle. And possibly it's super green in the front yard where people see but in the back yard it's filled with dead spots that are hidden from acquaintances.


To be honest, the neighbors on both sides of us literally have greener grass. They both have in ground sprinklers and spent time tending to their yards this summer. Their yards look gorgeous. Ours on the other hand, is a bit burnt out by the sun. While it's been regularly mowed and fertilized it's clear that I have not spent any time putting sprinklers out to water it. My husband and I have laughed and said - "the only green part of our lawn is where the neighbors sprinkler has actually sprayed over onto our yard!" lol!


We could have exactly what the neighbors have if we would simply water our yard and tend to it!


Could this same principle apply in marriage. Before we jump ship or sit in discontentment, I wonder if we watered and tended to our marriages if we could have the greener marriage!


In what ways can we water and tend to our marriages?

1. Accept the fact that all marriages are flawed. ‎"Conflicts are not a sign that you have married the wrong person.They simply affirm that you are human." Dr. Gary Chapman

2. Make your husband second priority only to God. Flip flop your life so your marriage is not coming in dead last and you will find grass that looks burnt out start to grow green again.

3. Set aside one night a month as a date night. Spend some time just enjoying your husband. Hold hands, steal kisses, talk, and listen. Slow down and enjoy each other like you did during the dating days!

4. Smile at your husband.

5. If your grass is looking brown in some spots tend specifically to those spots with prayer. Do not let it die!

6. Do not neglect your marriage and assume that it will grow all on its own. That's not how it works. My brown grass is not going to turn green on its own. It needs our attention. Discipline yourself to tend to it.

7. And my final point is in this funny video (a parody of Taylor Swift's song Love Story). Go ahead and watch it - I'll wait for you while you do...

Know that you are NOT alone! There are some pretty crazy seasons of life where spots of the grass just start to die. Dora cups and Chuck E Cheese take the place of romantic dinners out. Enjoy your family moments at Chuck E Cheese - but remember ALSO to tend to your marriage...don't let it get shoved aside because in 15 short years - your Dora cup drinkers will be out of the house and it will be back to just you and your husband. Will your grass be green at that point or dead?

The choice is yours.

Proverbs 14:1 "A wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down."

Walk with the King!