Communicating In Marriage About Time Management

Proverbs 31:28,29 says "Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: Many women do noble things but you surpass them all."

Have you ever felt like it's hard to please your husband? Like getting the praise of the Proverbs 31 woman is out of reach? I get emails from wives saying they work and work and work and their husband just never seems to appreciate it. We women can fill our plates to the brim with work, children's needs, activities and ministry, but it's important that we seek our husband's opinion. They can easily get squeezed out of the equation when it comes to our time management.

Week #5 Challenge: Make a list of 5 things you currently do and ask your husband to prioritize them for you of what is important to him. For example - a clean home, home cooked dinner, coupon clipping, service at church, having friends over for dinner, watching/doing sports with him, etc.

Some of you may find it odd to ask your husband what his priorities would be for you -but here is why it's important to communicate about these things.


About 5 years ago, I learned about the Walgreens and Rite Aid rebate systems. I was so excited to get so many freebies every week that participating in every rebate became almost like a game for me! I also created a coupon box and was getting organized following all of the ads and going from store to store getting deals.


I remember one day after I had ran myself ragged with my newborn baby and toddler in tow, getting all of the deals, I complained to my husband about how hard it was and how he should appreciate it!


He looked at me kinda shocked and said "I never asked you to do this?"


I said "but I'm helping us save money, isn't that important to you?"


He answered, "I appreciate the fact that you are being mindful of your spending but I worry about your safety when you are out with the kids. I'd actually prefer you take your extra time and stay home and keep the house in order ."


"Oh..." furrowed brow look on my face..."but I like rebating and clipping coupons."


"I'm not saying, you can't do it. I'm just saying, I'd appreciate it more if you organized a closet or something."


It was then I realized that some of the time I spent working hard, I THOUGHT my husband would really appreciate, he could care less about. Then other things I was neglecting he really cared about.


It's important that we take the time to communicate so we can avoid a fight, hurt feelings and bitterness in the future.


Different seasons of life will require different priorities. Different personalities will have different priorities. A social husband may prefer his wife plan cook outs rather than clean out the closets while a outdoorsman would prefer his wife work at his side while he gardens over her ironing his shirts. Each marriage is going to look different based on the leadership of the husband.

A lot of quarrels can be kept at bay if we are willing to ask our husbands their preferences and then be mindful of them.


This is definitely a challenge isn't it! So bloggers, write about this challenge and link up below. Don't forget to link back to this post. And if you are not a blogger, feel free to comment below about what you are learning as you listen to your husband about your time management.

{And one last thing, I went over the list of priorities with my husband this past week to be sure we are still on the same page. He made it clear that "doing IT" (wink*blush*) was number one on the priority list to him lol! Sorry if that was too much information but I have a feeling some of your husband's are in the same boat! So you may want to include that! lol!}

Walk with the King!