Waiting For Your Husband To Change

I have received emails from wives who have been changed by the power of God. They have heard God's commands within marriage and are ready to change and obey them. They are beginning to respect and honor their husbands. They are trying to be mindful of their words and of their husband's needs. But now they wonder. When will my husband change?

I am reminded of Mary the mother of Jesus. The angel appeared to her telling her that she was to bear a child, the Son of God. Joseph wasn't with her when the angel appeared and it appears from the story that initially he may not have believed her as he made plans to quietly divorce her (Matthew 1:19) We do not see in the scripture Mary trying to convince Joseph that what God said to her was true.

I think it's easy for us as wives to feel God speaking to us and then take it upon ourselves to tell our husbands how they should be behaving. We feel it is our responsibility to get them to see this great truth. Often times this pushes men further away from doing what the Lord wants them to do.

Because Mary loved and trusted God deeply and was a woman who pondered things in her heart, she waited and trusted in the Lord. In God's timing God revealed the same truths to Joseph. Soon, God sent an angel to Joseph who gave Joseph the same word as Mary. Joseph believed what God revealed to him and was changed!

But first, Mary had to wait. I imagine this was not easy as it felt that her world around her was falling apart. But she trusted and in God's good timing God moved.

We wives are nurturers by God's design but sometimes we take our nurturing ways and twist it into trying to fix our husbands. Sometimes we want everything fixed right now! But God wants us to wait on him. We must let God have a chance to work in the hearts and lives of our husbands just as he did in our lives.

D. Gordon, says in his book Quiet Talks on Prayer "Waiting means steadfastness, that is, holding on; patience, which means holding back; expectancy, which means holding the face up; obedience, holding oneself in readiness to go or to do; listening, holding quiet and still so as to hear."

And God says in Psalm 27:14, "Wait for the Lord, be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord."

If you are struggling with wanting to see a change in your husband today. I want to encourage you to cover your husband with prayer and wait. Continue to do what is right, be strong, take heart and wait on God to change your husband. Look at the photo of the Lion. Jesus is the Lion of Judah - powerful! He is the lamb of God - the one who takes away the sins of the world! He changes people! God is more powerful than you - let go and let God! Do not under estimate the power of prayer. God is faithful.


Walk with the King!