What To Do If Your Husband Is Not the Spiritual Leader

It's Marriage Monday and today I'm addressing a Mailbag Question.

We all come into marriage with expectations.


Maybe we imagined praying together, family devotions and our husband leading the way to church each Sunday. Then life happens. Praying together is forced. Evenings spent car pooling the kids to ball games and finishing up homework push out family devotion time. And our exhausted, hard working husband decides skipping church is a good idea! Ugh!

Suddenly you become disgruntled. You begin to think critical and bitter thoughts towards your husband. Before you know it, your thoughts start slipping out and they are words. Your husband feels judged, you feel like he’s not listening to you OR worse – God, and it’s a stalemate.
I received this email from a reader:

My dilemma is that my husband refuses to be the spiritual leader in our home. He doesn’t take a stance that we WILL be attending both regular church services and special meetings. He doesn’t lead us in family devotions or prayer time. He doesn’t set standards in our home that are to be followed (I’m speaking here of television/movie viewing, clothing choices, etc.)… I have prayed a lot about this issue. My question is how do I encourage my husband to take his God-given role without nagging him? And, what do I do in the meantime? I do not feel I should lead the family in devotions.

Sorry to put a cliff hanger here - but last Wednesday I answered this question on Sarah Mae's site! So, to read how I answered this mailbag question click on this link to Like a Warm Cup of Coffee!

Walk with the King!