tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post6382606285911397727..comments2024-02-14T18:33:18.969-05:00Comments on Women Living Well Blog: Restoration of Marriage After AdulteryCourtney (Women Living Well)http://www.blogger.com/profile/09656103671995728225noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-51214697595272254592010-10-12T20:04:54.652-04:002010-10-12T20:04:54.652-04:00Thank you anonymous for your recent comment. I ha...Thank you anonymous for your recent comment. I had not thought about this post in a while and bringing me back here to read reminded me that I MUST be praying for all your marriages that have suffered this blow and also be praying for those who are about to be tempted in this way - that God would protect them. <br /><br />Praying for you tonight dear anonymous reader. (((hugs))))<br />Much Love,<br />CourtneyCourtney (Women Living Well)https://www.blogger.com/profile/09656103671995728225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-15982309078827616752010-10-12T18:32:43.053-04:002010-10-12T18:32:43.053-04:00I just want to say that these words have been an e...I just want to say that these words have been an encouragement to me. i am believing God to bring salvation,healing,and restoration. my husband has moved out into his own apartment and has been unfaithful with more than 1woman. i know that even though i have just cause i am standing and believing for the miraculous from God. many tell me to give up and move on but i trust God will fully restore our marriage. thank you for all the encouraging words from so many im glad im not the only 1 that feels as i do. so often it seems as though im the only 1 and gets hard. please pray for my marriage and familyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-63125680334996373312010-06-02T20:20:40.367-04:002010-06-02T20:20:40.367-04:00It's only adultery if it was commited with, or...It's only adultery if it was commited with, or by a married woman.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-76877506548207705952010-05-13T12:19:59.403-04:002010-05-13T12:19:59.403-04:00This has been a timely post for me. I am currently...This has been a timely post for me. I am currently recovering from finding out about my husband's unfaithfulness. I will blog about this, but will be extremely vague. Writing helps. I look at my own life and the times I've been unfaithful to my God and see in my husband myself, in reference to my Christian walk. Because of this, and though still extremely painful, forgiveness wasn't an issue. My husband also is not saved, which was additional motivation. I wanted, and needed, to show him the forgiveness and love that Christ has shown me. My husband has been repentant, and I believe that he has no intention of this happening again... but... you never know. All I can do is pray. We're ALL just as vulnerable, if we don't keep our hearts guarded.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-63013755864553644382010-05-12T21:56:35.946-04:002010-05-12T21:56:35.946-04:00Look at these anonymous stories!!! They floor me!!...Look at these anonymous stories!!! They floor me!! This is truly God at his best.<br /><br />Your testimonies of love "For Better or For Worse" shine like lights in a dark and unbelieving world!<br /><br />Thank you thank you thank you for sharing your stories - I am SO touched!<br /><br />CourtneyCourtney (Women Living Well)https://www.blogger.com/profile/09656103671995728225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-39725704518891470352010-05-12T20:57:13.482-04:002010-05-12T20:57:13.482-04:00About 3 months ago my marriage was heading for div...About 3 months ago my marriage was heading for divorce. My husband eventually told me that he wanted to "move on with his life." I knew things were not great in our marriage, but it came as such a shock. Before we got married, we both sat down with each other and talked about how divorce would never be an option and we would work through issues-no matter what. So needless to say-I was shocked. He became very angry and hostile when I would have to talk to him (so I tried to avoid talking to him). Although things were very rough and he moved out, I continually prayed for him. He was acting completely out of character. I prayed and prayed and prayed and had my close friends and family praying for him and for our marriage. During this time, I picked up the book "The Power of a Praying Wife" by Stormie Omartian. It basically states that as wives we are to pray for the Lord to fix US and not our husbands. Sure, it is important to pray for all aspects of our husbands life: emotionally, physically, mentally, etc; but we must also pray for the Lord to change and work in our hearts! It is so easy to pray "Lord, change him" when we should be praying "Lord, change ME." :) I prayed over and over again that the Lord would work in both of us to restore our marriage.<br />A few months ago, out of the blue, he admitted to having an emotional affair with his supervisor at work. I was devastated, but so thankful to have honesty and a reason for his behavior. God is healing both of us and forgiveness is such a BEAUTIFUL thing. He later told me that he was trying to make me miserable so that I would want to walk away from the marriage as well. I stood strong through all of it (as difficult as it was) because I knew God has great plans for us. Prayer works! Only God could have changed both our hearts and restore our marriage. Have faith that God will work things out for HIS good. The song "That's What Faith Can Do" by Kutless was such a huge encouragement during this difficult time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-31860988283840450002010-05-10T17:49:44.768-04:002010-05-10T17:49:44.768-04:00Hi Courtney,
I was that adultress almost 6 years a...Hi Courtney,<br />I was that adultress almost 6 years ago. My husband and I only had one child at the time and i had developed post natal depression. Another person had entered our lives and with it his reputation for leading women.Married and unmarried astray. I refused to listen to my wise friends who urged me to stay with my husband and I instead ran back to my mum who lived in another state.With my 6 month old daughter in tow. <br /><br />Unknown to me, but all my faithful christian friends and family had been praying for me. And 9 months after i left and a myriad of court appearances in my effort to obtain custody of our daughter and then, a divorce. God intervened and i was restored to my huband. now, almost 6 years on, we now have 5 children and are blissfully married. I couldnt ask for a better husband. We rarely fight anymore. Instead we laught with one another and love to discuss teological issues or work out issues with the kids. But nonetheless it is still painful for both of us when the past is brought up. If it wasnt for those faithful prayers of my fellow believers, I wouldn't be where i am today. Thankyou for your post, It gives the hopeless, hope.<br />Sincerely,<br />MeganAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-820400851189334642010-05-10T17:25:41.957-04:002010-05-10T17:25:41.957-04:00Thanks so much for all the feedback guys - I wasn&...Thanks so much for all the feedback guys - I wasn't sure how this message would be received. I do have a couple emails in my inbox from some who are peaved at today's blog post. And I understand their feelings completely and don't fault them in the least - because God DOES say that divorce IS an option in this case. <br /><br />Reflecting the sparks - I apologize that I don't have any contact info for Karin - she posted this comment on the link "Divorce Is Not An Option". And I was so touched by it I wanted to repost it! Sorry :-(<br /><br />CourtneyCourtney (Women Living Well)https://www.blogger.com/profile/09656103671995728225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-12456611539075289282010-05-10T17:09:17.314-04:002010-05-10T17:09:17.314-04:00Is there anyway I can get in touch with Karin as I...Is there anyway I can get in touch with Karin as I am living where she has been? Thank you!<br /><br />www.sparksplace@gmail.comReflecting the Sparkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14804265947529838795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-80507241633666206212010-05-10T15:52:02.875-04:002010-05-10T15:52:02.875-04:00What a great testimony. I support couples who try...What a great testimony. I support couples who try to restore their marriage with God's help. I'm glad that you added that the spouse must be repentant.<br /><br />On my blog I talked about should women seek divorce when their husband continuously cheats on them. If a husband perpetually cheats and is unrepentant, then I think a woman has no choice really but to seek a divorce.<br /><br />But, if a husband is repentant and truly tries to right his wrong, then the wife should also try to forgive and help restore their marriage.<br /><br />What a timely post this is, and I'm so glad that you posted it.S. Bellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09918947365909041275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-45959700856162525562010-05-10T14:42:28.429-04:002010-05-10T14:42:28.429-04:00This is a great testimony that I'm so glad you...This is a great testimony that I'm so glad you added to Marriage Mondays today. What a wonderful example of how God blessed loved that was long suffering and persevering.Julie@comehaveapeacehttp://www.comehaveapeace.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-80096859285987405912010-05-10T14:06:52.303-04:002010-05-10T14:06:52.303-04:00Thank you for posting this. What a testimony it i...Thank you for posting this. What a testimony it is to God's healing power of love and forgiveness and grace.<br /><br />I imagine most, if not all of us, know someone who has been through the hurt of a divorce. To add adultry on top of the hurt of betrayal is devastating. <br /><br />I can't imagine a person trying to walk through that journey without the comfort of the Lord! Thanks for linking up today.momsthewordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14519343990735608713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-56132121354777139242010-05-10T12:09:54.597-04:002010-05-10T12:09:54.597-04:00A very moving post. Thank you for sharing. My husb...A very moving post. Thank you for sharing. My husband is saved, but he is floundering a lot. It seems the closer my relationship is drawing to God the more it makes him doubt. It has been a struggle, but you are right to know that God can do everything, even heal a broken marriage. <br />Thanks!Missiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03728595822929902508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-37235603934414074622010-05-10T11:36:29.603-04:002010-05-10T11:36:29.603-04:00Beautiful testimony of HOPE! Restoration always s...Beautiful testimony of HOPE! Restoration always should be the first goal!<br /><br />Thanks Court!Traci Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05868420770414629597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-65536872612518455382010-05-10T10:39:22.142-04:002010-05-10T10:39:22.142-04:00God bless your commitment Karen! What a touching t...God bless your commitment Karen! What a touching testimony of our Father's loving/forgiving nature. Thank you too for sharing, Courtney. My husband and I are coming up on our 3rd anniversary this June. It has been an uphill climb at times. But, with God's grace and our commitment to keeping Him first in our marriage, we are doing so much better. Our first 2 years were definitely a bit rocky--we were learning to adjust to one another, all while learning to treat one another lovingly, and with respect. Not until I looked at my own walk (the speck in my eye that Karen spoke of) did I start to witness real change, and growth, in my husband. I was putting entirely too much pressure on him to be my happiness. When I began living as his wife according to the life-changing word of God, everything turned around. And guess what? I was so full of God's joy (the calm delight that comes from walking daily with him) I didn't even notice the idiosyncrasies of my husband that used to bother me so much too! I know all marriage problems aren't as simple as "I had to fix myself first." Some marriages the other partner is already doing that--this was just my experience with marriage. Anyway, thanks again for posting, Courtney. I very much enjoyed reading Karen's testimony. God bless you all!<br /><br />Love, LauraLaurahttp://justforluv.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-46355932445953996642010-05-10T09:55:41.043-04:002010-05-10T09:55:41.043-04:00One of my closest friends was the adulteress. She...One of my closest friends was the adulteress. She had an affair several years ago, but God has restored their marriage! It was not an easy road for either of them, but what a testimony and blessing that they were both able to hang on to God and each other! The support of good, godly friends and a Christian counselor makes all the difference.livinginbetweenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06863271141699043381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-24802449896726396752010-05-10T09:24:49.225-04:002010-05-10T09:24:49.225-04:00Thank you Karin for your unwavering faith in our B...Thank you Karin for your unwavering faith in our BIG God! In 18 years of marriage, my Christian husband has always been faithful to me, but there was verbal, physical and emotional abuse throughout.(a relic of his childhood that would keep rearing it's ugly head) There were days when I prayed "God that's it, I've had enough, if you want me to keep going, I need your strength" and He was faithful to give it to me. Then in the last 3 years, God woke my husband up, and gave him such a hunger for Him, he gobbled the Bible and good teaching like he was starving, and after some good counsel, we were very happy together.<br />Last year, my husband contracted leukaemia, but trusted God each painful step of the way, until he was called home - well and truly miraculously transformed by God's power, despite the cancer.<br />Never give up praying for miracles in your marriage, but keep your own eyes on Him. It is so easy to complain, and as you said, forget about the logs in our own eyes.<br />Blessing to all<br />JennyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-91743858435760215182010-05-10T09:19:31.584-04:002010-05-10T09:19:31.584-04:00I couldn't agree more with Karin and I am glad...I couldn't agree more with Karin and I am glad you are sharing Karins story. We need to realize how awesome forgiveness is and how healing God is! <br /><br />Has he not forgiven us all so many times we cannot count?<br /><br />Thanks for being willing to put such a difficult subject on your blog!Queen Loshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03679808010872377658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-22190529955607583802010-05-10T09:14:18.858-04:002010-05-10T09:14:18.858-04:00wow that is a amazing story, Thank you for sharing...wow that is a amazing story, Thank you for sharing this with us!Mrs. Stamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10509954788063702199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-54699484665265121252010-05-10T08:39:11.840-04:002010-05-10T08:39:11.840-04:00Yes, Karen's story is definitely worth sharing...Yes, Karen's story is definitely worth sharing! Divorce is devastating with far reaching consequences. Most of us have been scarred by it. Yet forgiveness is the work of God and CAN lead to restoration. Adultery is a serious and complex issue and only the power of God can heal and restore what has been damaged through a MUTUALLY repentant and submissive couple. It takes time and loads and loads of grace and prayer, but in time, it is the most incredible testimony to live through this pain and see the healing power of God.jen at SoulFULL Cafehttp://www.soulfullcafe.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4423302133297844372.post-41816736578854556692010-05-10T08:29:57.959-04:002010-05-10T08:29:57.959-04:00Thanks for sharing Courtney! This is a great testi...Thanks for sharing Courtney! This is a great testimonial of showing God's forgiveness. He forgave us no matter what we have done to him I do believe we can do the same. I believe we all should seek God in trouble times in our marriage and not just take the "easy road" out. Being hurt and betrayed is a hard road without God but with God it can be over come. I love hearing stories like this, divorce is so high today and doing all one can to get through something like this will be glorifying to God and worth it in the end if both parties are willing to seek God first.<br /><br />Have a blessed day!<br />Serving with Joy,<br />SonyaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03409368188581547178noreply@blogger.com